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Help Me Communicate May 8 2019 Intro to part 2 of Taking it to the next level.

May 17, 2019
 

Hi everybody,

Welcome to Help Me Communicate.

This week I’m I’m introducing and releasing the 19th video in the new multi-media and animated CONTACT Communications Program for becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.   This is the last video in the CONTACT program with the exception of the bonus videos. Its part 2 of module 7.

The 2nd “T” in CONTACT Stands for Take it to the next level. Taking a sensitive, important to correction conversation to the next level means finding common intention, getting agreement and commitments and solidifying them. In the video below, I show you how.

I share 6 steps for effective mediating in this video and it will help you mediate your own sensitive and important conversations so you can take them to the next level.

If you want to be a great communicator and leader in sensitive, crucial and corrective conversations, you’ll have to be really good at finding common intention, getting agreement, commitments and...

CONTACT Mod 7 Part 2 - Take it to the Next Level - Find Common Intention and get commitment and agreement

May 17, 2019
 

Hi everybody. This video is part 2 of step 7 in CONTACT. The last step.  Congratulations. You’ve come along away. Good job.

Like I said, The 2nd ‘T’ in CONTACT stands for Take it to the next level — find common intention and get agreement and a commitment.

In this video I’ll share an example of finding common intention in a mediation setting. It’s your mediation lesson.

I’m going to give you a great 6 step process for mediating and taking all conversations to the next level. I’ll share how to get the agreement and solidify the commitment.

I once mediated a situation on a construction site where a one guy was bullying another.

The secondary intention of the bully was to make the newer, good employee, embarrassed, feeling guilty and angry to get him to shift what he was doing.

He teased him, called him names, and made him feel like quitting. The superintendent wanted to keep both people. He asked me to mediate.

The secondary...

Help Me Communicate April 17 2019

May 09, 2019
 

Hi All, I’m Mike

This week I’m I’m introducing and releasing the 18th video in the new multi-media and animated CONTACT Communications Program for becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.   Its part 1 of module 7.

The 2nd “T” in CONTACT Stands for Take it to the next level. Taking a sensitive, important to correction conversation to the next level means finding common intention, getting agreement and commitments and solidifying them.

In this video I explain what primary and secondary intentions are and how to find common intention. Finding common intention takes finding common ground to another level in a tough communication situations. 

Learn all about intentions in part 1 of module 7 in CONTACT.

If you want to be a great communicator and leader in sensitive, crucial and corrective conversations, you’ll have to be really good at finding common intention, getting agreement, commitments and solidifying them.    

Do...

CONTACT Mod 7 Part 1 - Take it to the Next Level - Find Common Intention and get commitment and agreement

May 09, 2019
 

Hi everybody. This video is part 1 of step 7 in CONTACT. The last step.  2nd ‘T’ in CONTACT stands for Take it to the next level — find common intention and get a commitment.

You’ll learn all about the Power of Common Intention in this video and the difference between primary and secondary intentions, and in Part 2 of Taking it to the next level you’ll learn how to solidify commitments and get a lesson on mediating using a 6 step framework.

How do you find common intention when things seem so far apart and the energy is very high? It’s a process that takes time, patience and some deeper understanding of what intentions are.

If you’ve followed the first 6 steps in CONTACT effectively, choosing the right words at the right time, using healthy listening skills and strong clarifying, you’re almost there. You might even already have done some of it.

Before we go further into understanding intention, I want to make this note: Be careful...

The Basic Human Needs and Intention List.

May 09, 2019

The basic human needs and intention list below can help you find common ground with almost anyone. 

We all have Needs and they are expressed and realized through our Intentions. When you want to find common ground, understand that the other person has basic needs that he or she wants fulfilled. Use the following list to help you explore with them what they are and what he or she wants. What their intention is. When you do this you will have a better understanding of them and it will be easier to find common ground and negotiate compromise.  

Basic needs of Humans: 

We want CONNECTION: 
acceptance
affection
appreciation
belonging
cooperation
communication
closeness
community
companionship
compassion
consideration
consistency
empathy
inclusion
intimacy
love
mutuality
nurturing
respect/self-respect
safety
security
stability
support
to know and be known
to see and be seen
to understand and
be understood
trust
warmth

We want PHYSICAL WELL-BEING
air
food
...

Help Me Communicate April 3 2019 Intro to part 2 of Finding common Ground

Apr 17, 2019
 

Welcome to Help Me Communicate.

This week I’m introducing the release the 17th video in the new multi-media and animated CONTACT Communications Program for Becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.  

The 2nd “C” in CONTACT Stands for Common Ground — Find it. Finding common ground is key to great communicating and leading. Learn the last 7 steps in finding common ground in today’s CONTACT video.

When you learn to find common ground quickly, you’ll become a great communicator.

If you want to be a great communicator and leader in sensitive, crucial and corrective conversations, you’ll also have to be really good at getting people into a “yes” frame of mind.  The Finding Common ground Module of CONTACT shows you how.   You’ll also  learn how to take ‘Seek first to understand then to be understood” to another level in this video. 

Do you want to have a positive effect on those you...

CONTACT part 2 of step 6 Finding Common Ground

Apr 17, 2019
 

Hi everybody. This video is part 2 of step 6 in CONTACT. Like I said, The 2nd ‘C’ in CONTACT stands for Common Ground — find it and get each person in the ‘yes’ frame of mind.  In this video I’ll give you the last 7 steps of Finding Common ground using CONTACT.

I’m going to get you to take the idea of seeking first to understand then to be understood to another level in this video to really make a difference in how you communicate and get people to engage in those tough conversations.

Here’s the overview and then some details. From the last video, Step 1 is to break the ice with some lighter conversation. Step 2 is to get agreement on how people communicate and then to agree to use the HIP as a navigation tool for the conversation.

Step 3 in finding common ground is to become Conscious of your own HIP. Step 4. Out yourself wisely. Step 5. Notice them. 6. Tune in. Actively listen

Step 7 in finding common ground is to Affirm and...

Help Me Communicate March 15 2019 Intro to the release of part 1 of module 6 in CONTACT

Apr 03, 2019
 

Welcome to Help Me Communicate.

This week I’m introducing the release the 16th video in the new multi-media and animated CONTACT Communications Program for Becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.  

The 2nd “C” in CONTACT Stands for Common Ground — Find it. Finding common ground is key to great communicating and leading. Learn the 1st 2 steps in finding common ground in today’s CONTACT video.

When you learn to find common ground quickly, you’ll become a great communicator.

If you want to be a great communicator and leader in sensitive, crucial and corrective conversations, you’ll also have to be really good at getting people into a “yes” frame of mind.  The Finding Common ground Module of CONTACT shows you how.   

Do you want to have a positive effect on those you work with, live with and play with? Become a great communicator and leader in all aspects of your life using the CONTACT system. When you do,...

Contact Module 6 Part 1 - Finding common ground and getting into the 'Yes' frame of mind

Apr 03, 2019
 

Hi everybody. This video is Part one of step 6 in CONTACT. The 2nd ‘C’ in CONTACT stands for Common Ground — find it.  FYI. Communicating comes from the Latin word, communis, which literally means “to make common.” 

Effective communication is all about finding the common ground to prevent or solve conflict, build positive emotions in people and create progress.

In 2008, the Ontario Government Ministry of Education published a document with a ‘call to action’ for finding common ground and believes it’s key to character development.

When you’re trying to fix a problem or fix a relationship of any type that goes off track, what’s the number one thing that blocks resolution, solutions and progress? Poor communications is the answer I get 99% of the time, whether it’s a personal interaction, situation and relationship or a work one.

The inability to find common ground in sensitive conversations, is a...

Help Me Communicate Feb 20 2019 Introduction to CONTACT Module 5 Affirm and Clarify

Mar 15, 2019
 

Hi All, I’m Mike

Welcome to Help Me Communicate.

This week I’m introducing the release the 15th video in the new multi-media and animated CONTACT Communications Program for Becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.  

Learn 3 techniques for Reflective listening in this part of CONTACT to help you effectively Affirm and Clarify what the other person is saying and meaning. ‘A’ in CONTACT stands for Affirm and clarify to make sure your interpretation is right. Use reflective listening. Learn 3 techniques for reflective listening.  

When you learn to be a great questioner and listener, you’ll become a great communicator in sensitive, crucial and corrective conversations.

Do you want to have a positive effect on those you work with, live with and play with? Become a great communicator using the CONTACT system. When you do, you will attract more successes in every aspect of your life.

You’ll naturally be using these techniques at times...

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